One More Thing...
Sep. 15th, 2006 04:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
libertangoI want to make another point about this whole episode. I didn't want to while saying what I thought needed to be said, because I didn't want to be accused of making this issue about me.
Let's look at the original post by![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
fimbrethil, telling us she'd learned of my mistake:
"I am absolutely livid right now. I was pointed to a post else journal where someone, posting about 9/11, wrote thatrosefox lost a husband as a result of 9/11. No, she didn't. She lost an LDR partner."
(emphasis added by me)
The crucial thing here, to me, is this:
Whoever pointedfimbrethil to my post did not take it up with me first. If they had, it would have taken no more than literally ten minutes to resolve. My words are not so precious to me that I wouldn't have made friendly amendments. Had I been contacted directly, the necessary corrections would have been made swiftly, and there would have been substantially less pain and distress all around. My first and foremost commitment is to the truth.
Perhaps I'm indulging in 20/20 hindsight when I say I thinkfimbrethil's reaction to the news was completely predictable -- but I don't think so.
To sum briefly:
There were two ways to resolve this -- a kind way, and a cruel way.
You, whoever-you-are, chose the cruel way.
Those were the choices you had.
Those were the choices you made.
Don't think you escaped being noticed.
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I don't know who you are. I know this LJ is read by many people beyond those on my friends' list.
My point is, like the quote from Aaron Sorkin on my profile, "Well, God, Jed, I don't even want to know you."
You've caused enough pain and distress as is. Try to take "credit," and I'll delete the comment, and ban you.
If you're of a Judeo-Christian bent, you might want to ponder Exodus 22:22-24 for a while. Like I said at the time, "As someone who lost a father when he was seven, it's the children left behind for whom I grieve the most." (And, that said, all my heart goes out to Brigid, Liam & Elle's daughter.)
I've said my piece.
Let's look at the original post by
fimbrethil, telling us she'd learned of my mistake:"I am absolutely livid right now. I was pointed to a post else journal where someone, posting about 9/11, wrote that
rosefox lost a husband as a result of 9/11. No, she didn't. She lost an LDR partner."(emphasis added by me)
The crucial thing here, to me, is this:
Whoever pointed
fimbrethil to my post did not take it up with me first. If they had, it would have taken no more than literally ten minutes to resolve. My words are not so precious to me that I wouldn't have made friendly amendments. Had I been contacted directly, the necessary corrections would have been made swiftly, and there would have been substantially less pain and distress all around. My first and foremost commitment is to the truth. Perhaps I'm indulging in 20/20 hindsight when I say I think
fimbrethil's reaction to the news was completely predictable -- but I don't think so.To sum briefly:
There were two ways to resolve this -- a kind way, and a cruel way.
You, whoever-you-are, chose the cruel way.
Those were the choices you had.
Those were the choices you made.
Don't think you escaped being noticed.
*^*^*
I don't know who you are. I know this LJ is read by many people beyond those on my friends' list.
My point is, like the quote from Aaron Sorkin on my profile, "Well, God, Jed, I don't even want to know you."
You've caused enough pain and distress as is. Try to take "credit," and I'll delete the comment, and ban you.
If you're of a Judeo-Christian bent, you might want to ponder Exodus 22:22-24 for a while. Like I said at the time, "As someone who lost a father when he was seven, it's the children left behind for whom I grieve the most." (And, that said, all my heart goes out to Brigid, Liam & Elle's daughter.)
I've said my piece.
